A beautiful Saturday deserves a nice walk, and that’s exactly what I did after I finished drinking my coffee in the morning, and since it was sunny I decided also to go out only with a jumper refusing to wear my jacket knowing the fact that I might regret it, but I did it anyway to convince myself that feeling cold is a not that huge problem according to my other problems, at least it’s easier than asking my blonde neighbor out for a dinner.
On the way down in the elevator, it stopped to see a young 13 years old girl came in with a smile and the regular “Hej” and came all the way down with me to the ground level, once we opened the building main door she turned to me and asked me gently, “Can I have a cigarette?”, first how did she know that I smoke, and second she is hardly 13 which make her illegal to smoke, so definitely I refused to give her and told her an advice that probably she forgot it the moment she went on her way...Why would she listen, I am still not listening…
After I got my milk from the store waiting the line to pay for it, I witnessed a warm meeting between a woman and a man in their middle 30 who seemed to be out of touch for a long time, like they were a college couples or something, and they started to speak about what they are doing in their lives, and how they have been. Once they reached the exit she said to him “meet Jemy”, yes, jemy was that black scary dog who was barking outside the store, and I could see that jemy didn’t like the guy, so she started shouting at jemy asking him to sit down and to stop barking, but let’s say in a bad way.
The minute I came up with the elevator back to my apartment I knew that there is a connection between the girl who asked me for the cigarette, and Jemy the dog, with a second cup of coffee my mind started giving me some questions like, How many times the girl’s father shouted at her for smoking? Why didn’t I listen to my father when he also shouted? Can Jemy be more obedient than me and the 13 years old kid? Is adopting a pet considered to be the right way that makes human control others because they can’t control their kids? Is it like Sadism? Or a way of it? Ok, what happens if Jemy don’t obey his master, and what happens if the girl doesn’t listen to her parents?
Being raised in a middle eastern country where most of fathers prefer the old classical way of raising a teenager like kicking butts when necessary made me believe that it’s not the right way, but seeing your 13 years old kid smoking definitely make you get mad that you might do any stupid thing to stop it, at least if you really care, and having a dog won’t solve the issue of your kids not listening to you. I have a friend who is really bad to his dog, he puts for him the food and ask him not to eat until he says so while when he cooks for his kids they don’t listen to him and they just start eating while he is washing the left over dishes!, I can’t even believe it that when he is mad at his kids he says to them that he loves the dog more for being behaved more than them! And he is more discipline!
The one thing that was a mystery to me is why would a family get a dog when they have their own children, other than protection reason? Which a man himself can take care of that, to me it was un reasonable to see a woman French-kissing a Bulldog in the middle of the park and few minutes later she kisses the guy next to her on the bench while the kid is sleeping in the stroller, well, if there is that much of love in the parents hearts they should give it all to the kid not sharing it with a dog just because he shake his tail, obey them more, and easier to get rid of it when it pees on their luxury sofa. Definitely I am not saying to be rude with animals, but they shouldn’t be on the top of the list neither sharing the love parents.
The girl, and the dog has almost the same life style when it comes about being home, except that the girl has to wash dishes sometimes while the dog bark when the elevator beeps, and probably if they both lived in the same house, the dog might be more lovable to the parents just because it sits when asked to do… well, in my opinion splitting the love you have in your heart between a dog and your own kid is more rude than beating them to make them stop smoking…Eller hur?
As always you make very interesting points. And i completly agree with you cause i see these things each day here in France too.
ReplyDeleteLike for example a lot of times i saw the winter how parents take out their under like 4 years old kids without sock and thick clothes, when it's freezing cold outside... All you said above is related with my this example.
It's just the European lifestyle