A Band...

Renting an apartment on the ground floor might not be as bad as living on the 8^th floor when you have a wooden frame windows like my apartment in Sweden, where wind is a religion, so I get to wake up every day annoyed by that noise coming from cracking windows, but as I always say “I wish if it’s the worst that can happen”,  and by saying this I realize that this thing is really not a problem, IN fact I started to enjoy it, I just need a couple of guitarists, a singer, and this noise and we can be a band!...

Today is “Midsommar” in Sweden, which means the Middle of Summer, it’s a festival where people celebrate for seeing the sun after a long time, so its summer officially! People gather themselves in parks and start to dance and sing in groups, and as my friend Mag said “It’s the only time you will see Swedes dancing and singing without being drunk!”, it’s true, and it looks fabioules, it reflects the ancient culture of Sweden, especially after the dance when friends and families gather for a dinner and eat Herring Fish and Potato, then they serve spirit drinks!

Unfortunately, I wasn’t a part of it this year, though I wanted to dance and jump, and let this Herring fish bones stuck in my throat and try to swallow it with a shot of Vodka! But you need to be a part of the family or a really close friend to join the house gathering, and I think it will take a lot of time to have such a relationship in Sweden, and here where I lit a cigarette, and thought for a while, in 9 months in Sweden, Couldn’t make such a close friend? How long will take if I want to? What is the time period of achieving friendship in Sweden Standards? Is it really that hard? Living alone is an option? Is it the lifestyle here, or I am being sensitive?

Apart from my working life, and being a single guy in a city full of blondes, having a good friend is the least what I can try to achieve, while failure means a depressing social life in a cold country, and to avoid failing by achieving the desired goal as  having friends who invite you to such an event you will need to work hard for it, first is to break the language barrier, you will have to speak Swedish same way they do, yes they can speak English fluently, but they would appreciate your good Swedish more, no matter how they tell you that they prefer to speak English, but that’s for a day or two, but won’t make you have a really good friendship.

The lifestyle is Sweden is really different from any other country in the world, I mean Swedes are really busy with their own life not concentrating on emotions, it might shock you seeing two old friends meet by coincidence in a shopping mall and just wave to each other’s humbling “Hi”, there is no hugging and kissing like Arabs, or no shoulder tapping like Italians, there is no “where the F#$% have you been” like in UK, if you are lucky and made him a favor earlier you would probably get “How is it going?”. I am aiming for more; I don’t consider that a friendship if there was no caring, or at least pretending it!

It will defiantly take a long time to have a really close friend that you can call “Buddy” or you can really believe that if you face a problem he will be there, even if he can’t help, but he will think it through with you, and suggest you what to do, a friend who will call you NOT only when he wants to party and has no company, a friend who his family will call you if they can’t reach him because they know that you can somehow, I mean a good friend, who invites you to celebrate with him the “Midsommar”!

I saw happy people singing and dancing today, and I realized how music can affect people, it can make them gothic, or it can make them believers, and it’s a way to change the people mentality, I always wanted to make a band, to sing for the life, for the friendship and love, for a major change, to point at the community faults, and sing it out loud, make people repeat it, and have it as a logo… maybe it’s the time to start a band! I play Guitar, and my cracking wooden windows are the Drummer, I just need a Singer…